OK now I’m sick of this rollar-coaster ride….why do I have to spend my weekend at moms while the POA and her family keep going out of town

This is an interesting scenario because in many ways it’s a little related to how my sisters and I are handling the care of our parents. However, in this case, the disgruntled caregiver is upset because her sister who has a POA is taking many weekend trips and it’s “expected” that the caregiver stay at home with their ailing mother. There is a part-time caregiver there but only at night. My take on it is that they are not working together to schedule time out. I find it interesting because in my family, it’s not perfect and sometimes it’s sometimes frustrating for all of us trying to juggle our time with our parents’ needs.

Josie and I run our business and our goals are to provide enough income flow to sustain not only ourselves but our parents and their needs as well. Given the latest new healthcare bill that has passed, who knows what will happen to Medicare, Social Security, etc? The benefits/consequences of that are yet to be seen. So we may have to work harder!! So our third sister spends the week at our parents and Josie’s mother-in-law and take a couple of days off during the week and is there again on the weekends. Since we have part-time help that comes, there is an option that allows them to switch.  On occasion, Josie and I will attend to our parents’ needs if someone take a few days off. It’s hard to do this because of the business but we do what we can. In an ideal world, we would have 24-hour care through an agency and we would visit on a weekly basis. But with anything in this modern world, it costs and arm and a leg and only the wealthy can afford that lifestyle.

What I find interesting is that in many families, people are afraid to tell each other the truth. I don’t get it because in mine, we will “tell it like is” and everyone knows exactly how we feel. Whether they participate or not is up to them and we make due but they know where we stand. Hopefully this caregiver sits her sister down and works something out. It’s this kind of thing that causes caregiver burnout and resentment.

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