Caregivers- Taking a Vacation

Lazzy Feet on a Blue Ocean Beach vacation

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One in every five Americans is helping someone who can no longer help themselves. That is a lot of caregivers and a lot of love! Often caregivers think they cannot take time for themselves when they are caring for someone else. This is a myth! In fact, it is important that you take personal time and even go on vacations. This will not only improve the quality of care you give, but will also relieve stress. How is this accomplished? Below are some tips, which can make taking a vacation easier.

Find a replacement caregiver

This may be someone you already know, or you can hire a professional. It may be worthwhile; to check with your health insurance company to see if the cost of an in-home aide could be covered while you are away.

Introduce them

It is important that you introduce them to your loved one prior to leaving. This may help the care-receiver feel more comfortable about you leaving. It will also help the replacement caregiver get comfortable with your daily or weekly routine. Go over what needs to be done, and how you do it. This will ensure that the new care-giver knows exactly how to perform certain treatments or tasks.

Make a list of responsibilities

To ensure that your loved one is taken care of completely, make sure to leave detailed instructions as a reference. This will help to ease your mind while you are away. Also, you may want to make a daily checklist that the caregiver can check off each day. Not only will everything be taken care of, in order, but when you come home, you will see that everything has been done.

Other things you can do:

  • Leave a list of emergency telephone numbers and places of where you are staying. That way, if there is an issue they can contact you right away.
  • Call the doctor prior to leaving and let them know you will be traveling. They may have additional tips for you. Also, if there is an emergency, they will be aware of your whereabouts and will be able to contact you.
  • Depending on the care-receivers condition it may be good to check in with them while you are away. Let me know you will be back soon and are thinking of them. The amount you call should be at your discretion.
  • Have a nice time! While you may feel guilty about leaving, it is important to let yourself de-stress and spend time with your additional family. It may seem hard, but taking time for yourself is an important part of being a good caregiver.
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Choosing between work and and caring for an elder

How do you deal with an employer who is pushing you to make the choice between work and caring for your elder?

This week’s question came from a caregiver having a hard time at work. She takes care of her mother who is afflicted with Parkinson’ s Disease. Already in a stressful situation, her boss doesn’t make it easier for her when she returns to work after having taken her mom to the hospital. You may be in a similar situation with your work. I’m fortunate to have my own business so I don’t have anyone to answer to, but I’m unique in that way. Most people have a 9-5 job that they struggle to keep and in many situations, are forced to give up their career to become full-time caregivers to their parents.  Is there any recourse?

Well, besides quitting your boss should be aware of (and if they are not you should educate them or involve the Human Resources Department) the Family Leave Act of 1993. The FMLA is an unpaid mandate (costs paid by employers) requiring larger employers to provide unpaid leave to certain workers in the United States. The law recognizes the growing needs of balancing family, work, and obligations, and promises numerous protections to workers.

What other options can you talk to your boss about? Depending on the type of work you do, you may want to ask about telecommuting opportunities from home. This is something my brother gets to do from home on occasion. He remotely accesses his computer at work and is able to work as if he’s in the office. If your company is a smaller one or doesn’t offer this type of perk, you may want to bring it up to the powers that be. Having this kind of option allows workers to be more productive and saves money and time in a lot of cases.

If you can afford it, you can also hire someone to assist with  taking your loved one to appointments and only designating the important appointments for yourself. Regardless, the Family Act is law so your employer is obliged to follow it. If they violate it in any way, you can seek legal counsel.




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